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PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE: PARENTS
Are they always right?
No. They're human, and they come in all different types.
Let's be clear. Most of our parents are exactly what we need. In some cases, though, parents are not capable, loving, or sensible enough. In tact, there are even a few parents out there who are downright toxic. But I'll get to all that in a minute. I just want you to know up front that / know it's not always "You're wrong, they're right!"
Now that we got that established, let's discuss something that's probably been happening to you a lot these days. One of the most important things about the teen years is that you begin to look outside yourself and evaluate other people. Maybe the reason for doing this is a little bit selfish: you want to understand what other kids are like so that you can make them like you better. Fine. But while you're working on that, you should also be learning how other people think and feel. Essentially what you are doing is learning empathy.
You're discovering (I hope) that you can't understand someone else's behavior unless you try to understand what they're going through. If your girlfriend curses at you, you'll want to know why she's so upset. Has she just suffered some kind of disappointment? And girls, it's the same thing with guys. You can really drive them crazy. But why? When that happens, you really want to know the answer to that question.
The same should be true for your relationship with your parents. You should be learning to use this kind of thinking, this same empathy, on them, all the while remembering that they have the ultimate say.
You and your folks might have conflicting aims. You want a new bike, but your parent says no. II you're still a child, you just get angry or sad. But if you're a teenager, you're just learning to ask yourself why. Is your mother worried because some kid across town just got killed when his Harley slammed into a tree? Is your father concerned because he might lose his job and he needs to keep as much money as possible in reserve? Would your bike make insurance costs too high (or the family?
Even if this scenario has nothing to do with you, I know that you can come up with one on your own that is relevant to your life.
The example doesn't matter. Here's what does:
IN EVERY ARGUMENT, IJOU SHOULD BEGIN BY ISOLATING THE CONFLICT. What ate you and your parents really disagreeing about?
00 NOT BRING UP ISSUES OF RIGHT AND WRONG. Are your parents wrong? According to you, yes. According to them, no. So there's no going there. You KNOW that you're right, of course.
INSTEAD, FIND OUT W H Ö THEU, DISAGREE WITH you. If your father says, "Because I said so," this strategy might not be working. But keep cool and try again. You might be surprised. The more polite you are, the more responsive the other person will be. Remember that in any debate.
ONCE YOU UNDERSTAND THEIR REASON(S), SEE WHAT YOU CAN WORK OUT. Safety concerns? Offer to take a safe driving course. Money? Find a job, or go for the secondhand option.
BUT IF NOTHING WORKS . . . DROP IT. This is an important life lesson. Sometimes all of the rationality in the world will still not be enough to change the mind of someone close to you. This lesson is important in marriage and business partnerships, too, so you might as well learn it now by dealing with your parents. Even if they are being unfair, remember that life is unfair.
I did not learn this lesson when I was a teenager . . .
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